Pain demands action, and happiness?

There’s a thing they say about pain – it demands to be felt. That’s because it stings. Just like a bee. And when we are stung, we only focus on fixing the affected part of our body and don’t necessarily care about the other 99.9% functioning part of the body. Which is good, because that is the need of the situation. It is the survivor’s bias. It is urgent. It aches. And we must act now. And that holds true for both physical and mental pain.

And, when nothing is going wrong? I think we tend to feel more happy in fleeting moments of pleasure. That is, whenever something simulating or vivid happens. We end up subconsciously training the brain to respond with "happiness" whenever something vivid like that happens again.

And that is super normal. But the thing with enabling this pattern of the brain is that it is self-limiting in a way. Pleasure simulates, but it also takes something from us. It makes us addicted to dopamine rushes, and leaves happiness to merely be an achievable state. 

Again, there is nothing wrong with pleasure. I have, in fact, lived on the "pleasure principle" my whole life. But joy? That’s different. Joy, is always present by default. Just because you're a soul experiencing human life, that reason is enough. We just have to give it enough room to be felt.

While pain, being stingy in nature, always makes room for itself to demand attention and action, happiness is quite the opposite. It is more at peace, it is more a state of being. And that’s why we tend to forget about its presence. We take it for granted. But that’s also why it is easy to recognize it right now, at this very moment.

The way to do that is to be mentally free. Give, don't ask. Do, don't think. Don't chase outcomes, chase a true purpose if you must chase something and then just find joy in the process and let the outcomes organically take shape.

The ability to do this also sets you up for thinking more clearly, and take bigger challenges head on.

Other good practices are acceptance and gratitude. Pure joy is not needy and doesn't wait for you to get that dream job or that dream house. It's just there. Always.

When we practice mental freedom, joy improves your quality of life. And it makes sense too, it is better to be a source and container of joy rather than a chaser of cheap dopamine hits.

And the thing with this is that it multiplies. The more you practice this state of being, the more you can give it out subconsciously, and the better environment you can create for yourself and the ones around you. So you don’t really have to wait for a great environment to happen to you, and put conditions on feeling happy. It can be turned into a daily choice, a process.